1- Forgiveness has nothing to do with whether or not the person DESERVES forgiveness.
2- Forgiveness is not saying what the person did or did not do is right.
3- Forgiveness is taking the person off our hook and putting them on God’s hook.
4- We are cutting them loose from our backs and giving the burden to God.
5- We are no longer allowing them to hold us captive by holding a grudge.
6- 2 Cor. 2:9-11 Unforgiveness is a trap set by satan.
7- Forgiveness does not mean we put ourselves in a position to be abused or mistreated again.
8- Forgiveness does not mean I must trust the person I have forgiven.
9- We cannot be bitter and get better at the same time.
10- Forgiveness is not absolving the person from taking responsibility for their actions.
11- It is not denying that the wrong occurred.
12- It is not pretending the abuse did not happen.
13- Forgiveness is letting go of your need for revenge.
14- Forgiveness is leaving the past behind so that it does not control your actions and emotions.
Now that we know what we have- Jesus this Great High priest with ready access to God- Let’s not let it slip through our fingers. We don’t have a priest who is out of touch with our reality. He’s been through weakness, testing, He’s experienced it all – all but the sin. So let’s walk right up to Him and get what He is so ready to give. Take the mercy, accept the help. Hebrews 4:14-16 The Message
Extending forgiveness is one of the hardest things to do sometimes. But when we realize it is not a natural act but a supernatural act done through us by God Himself it makes a little more sense.
Some of this post is from Your Scars Are Beautiful by Sharon Jaynes. Good stuff.