Out Of Her Comfort Zone

She had lots of friends who weren’t from my crowd. To look at us you’d never believe we were compatible. She smoked in the school bathroom; I was scared to go in there most the time. Her crowd was the cool, tough bunch while mine was the mediocre athletic, nerdy types.

I can’t remember our first words to each other but we clicked and that was the start of a lifelong friendship. Crys introduced me to her brother, a popular tough guy. We went on a double date and another lifelong relationship was made that night. I met the guy of my dreams and married him 2
years later. Thanks for that.

You’d have to know Crys to understand that she’s never really been the emotional kind, not lovey dovey, or huggy. I on the other hand cry at the drop of a hat, love anything sentimental and hug a lot. So you’ll understand when I found the letter why it made me cry all over again thinking
of her.

My dad passed away 11 years ago. It was one of saddest, most unbelievable times of my life. I have written several posts about him and if you’ve read any of them you know he was my hero and I was his princess. Crys doesn’t like to show emotion and she’s not big on funerals so she stayed at my
mom’s house the day of the funeral and cleaned and prepared for visitors. This meant more than she’ll ever know.  We never really took the time to talk about his death because I knew and I think
she knew we’d just end up in a bawling session. That day she did her thing and I did mine, and we hugged good bye when it was all over.

A few weeks later I received a letter in the mail from her. She expressed how sorry she was that I had lost my dad. The letter was about a page long and her words touched me so.  I can’t explain how much it helped me at that time. Crys showed my family love by all the things she had “done” because that’s her way of giving love. The special thing about it is that Crys knew I needed a different kind of love, a letter of love. Even though it took her out of her comfort zone she
went there, she did it for me and I will never forget it. As I write this post now big tears well up in my eyes because I am reminded of this thoughtful loving thing Crys did just for me.

I ran across that letter just the other day and as I read it again the memories flooded back to all the times we’ve been there for each other. I write this to tell Crys “I love you. You are never forgotten. You are my sister. You are beautiful inside and out and I’m thankful to God for putting
you in my life.”

The letter is neatly folded and remains in the box with what I have left of my dad’s belongings.

I am thankful to The Red Dress Club  for this prompt.  It is a post that needed to be written a long time ago. Here’s the prompt:

You or your character find a forgotten letter or card from someone important in
your life–whether good or bad.  What does it say?  How does it affect you or
your character?  What is done with it?



  1. I can relate to Crys as I too am not the lovey dovey, huggy, type either, but show my affection and appreciation in other ways. That is special that you both recognized and were able to help and connect on the same level but yet in different ways. Bonds like that are few and far between. Cherish those special moments in life and LOVE those special people with all your heart. God puts certain people in our lives for a reason and I know I am very thankful for that! 🙂 LOVE Jennifer

  2. Pam Lopez says:

    Thank you Julie!! When you find a good friend, you have found a good thing. It’s amazing how much even the Bible talks about friendship. So, just goes to show how much even God “values” true & lasting friendships. I must admit that I am so extremely blessed with lifelong, precious and valuable friendships too. I could just go on and on and on about mine. But, the most important thing is how much we care about each other and how deep our friendships go with one another….I just can’t say enough except to say that God has truly blessed me!!! I am so thankful that you have found that as well….I consider you a very true, loving & Godly friend! I love you Julie! Thank you for sharing & God Bless~

  3. How lovely for you to have a “sister” like Crys – a sister who just knows you and does what needs to be done.

  4. Beautiful. Touching and incredible tribute to your friend. I have a friend like Crys. We are complete opposites in every way, and yet, somehow, we just fit. Thank you for reminding me to tell her how much she means to me, how much our friendship means to me.

  5. Sometimes the biggest help during times of loss or pain is making sure life doesn’t stand still. When my dad had one of his heart attacks, it meant the world to my mom that her friends brought over dinner and helped clean up the kitchen. You have a true friend. What a blessing.

  6. Galit Breen says:

    What a beautiful tribute to a lifelong friend!

    Amazing and really quite rare, yes?

  7. Such a blessing to have good friends. So hard to find true friends like that. Thanks for sharing!

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