When Your Friend Hurts….

I have a friend in great emotional pain because someone is purposely hurting her. She is experiencing such loss at this moment. The tears she cries could fill a lake, no, an ocean because they are constant.

What can I do? I am helpless to do anything but listen. That’s what I do when she calls, I listen. Somehow it seems to ease her pain for just a moment to talk about something other than the situation. But eventually conversation comes back around to the problem. So I listen, and cry with her and try to be a shoulder for her to lean on.

And I pray. I lift her and her family up to the Father knowing He has the answer. And though the answer may not come as quickly as we would like He is working it out because I know it just can’t stay like it is now.

Sometimes in the middle of a bad situation it’s hard to step back and see the big picture, it’s hard to pray, it’s even harder to believe there’s something good coming. But thank the Lord for family and friends that believe for us, that pray when we can’t and stand with us during this time of despair.

I’ve been on both sides and God has always been faithful to me. Let me encourage you to be the friend someone needs but also be sure to take the hand of friendship when you need it too.



  1. Pam Lopez says:

    Thank you for posting this Julie!! Sometimes its so hard to know what to say when people are going through things. It’s hard too when it seems that there are no “easy” answers to get to…But, I’m thankful that we have a wonderful & powerful God that hears us when we cry out to Him. He is faithful in hearing our prayers and making Himself known in our lives.

    Thank you for continuing to post and write your thoughts and thank you also for being such a wonderful friend and prayer partner…… God Bless, Pam

  2. Thanks (again!) Julie. And once again, interesting timing: I just started a book called “Written in Tears” by Luke Veldt. I always struggle with what to say to someone in great pain — I usually want to fix it, toss out scriptures, make it go away quick. I need to learn how to shut up and just be there. Like you said, just listen. GOD is the healer. And most often healing takes time.

  3. Good lesson to learn = Listen and pray! I need to learn that! Thanks for the reminder.

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